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Thursday, January 08, 2009

Marriage Thoughts

I'm blessed to be married to an exceptionally thoughtful man.

Here's an example. For Christmas, Miss Muffet and Baby Bear both wanted specific fairy dolls (from the Tinkerbell movie). Unfortunately, many other little girls must have wanted them, too, because the ones they wanted were never in stock. So we got them different ones and promised to get the ones they really wanted later. While they were disappointed not to get the ones they wanted, they were okay once they understood that they would get them later.

On Tuesday, Mr. Incredible called to say that he was at Wal-Mart and that they had Miss Muffet's doll but not Baby Bear's. I told him to go ahead and get the doll and that we would wait to give it to Miss Muffet until we had Baby Bear's doll as well. About 35 minutes later, he called me back to say that he had made a special trip to the Wal-Mart in a town that was about 30 minutes away and they had Baby Bear's doll. So he got it for her and also bought one for Pookie Bear so she wouldn't feel left out.

When he got home and gave the girls their dolls, it was like Christmas all over again. Miss Muffet, particularly, was delighted. As soon as she saw her doll, she started squealing, ran over to her daddy, threw her arms around him, and thanked him repeatedly, saying, "I've been waiting for this my whole life!" (Totally cracked us up - she's only 4!)

How thoughtful was that? He not only thought to look for the dolls when he stopped at Wal-Mart for something else, but he also made a special trip to look elsewhere for the missing doll so that all of his girls would be happy. Honestly, I wouldn't have made the special trip.

But that's not all. I've been battling a cold and/or sinus infection. I woke up around 2:30 that night feeling beyond wretched. My ears hurt, my throat hurt, my chest hurt in front and in back, and I was running a fever. It hurt to breathe, and it was simply excruciating to cough. I was nearly crying, I was so miserable, and I don't often cry. Mr. Incredible woke up and got me medicine and made me as comfortable as possible.

When he got up at 6:00 to get ready for work, he asked if I wanted him to stay home. Since my fever had broken during the night and I was feeling much better, I said it would be nice to have his help but that I could make it without him. He called in to say he wouldn't be making it to work taht day and then sent me back to bed. When the kids got up, he did his best to keep them out of our room. I ended up sleeping until 11:00.

Here's my point. Mr. Incredible is human, which means that he is not perfect. (I'm not perfect, either.) Ofttimes, I remember the things he did that annoyed me or made me mad. I need to look for and remember these thoughtful things he does (and he is always doing something thoughtful).

If I focus on the negative things, that's what I'm going to see, and my perspective of our marriage will be sour. But when I focus on the good things, I realize just how blessed I am. I suppose that's why we are instructed to think on the good things.

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. - Philippians 4:8 KJV
I know that I have been focusing more on the bad things than on the good things, and that has to change. Even if Mr. Incredible didn't deserve better from me (he does), the marriage vows I made to love, honor, and obey him will be next to impossible to truly keep if I don't focus on the good things.

How do you view your marriage? What are you focusing on? Do you think changing your focus would improve your marriage?

3 comments:

Our Home Schooler and Jen said...

awww bless that sweet thoughtful hubby of yours

LOL arent kids cute with the things they say

hope you fell better soon

"If I focus on the negative things, that's what I'm going to see, and my perspective of our marriage will be sour. But when I focus on the good things, I realize just how blessed I am"
thanks for this reminder I need to mediate on this

Revka said...

The things our kids says are hysterical at times and highly embarrassing at others - LOL!

I am starting to feel much better - thank you. :)

I'm glad my words nudged you to take a look at your focus, too. We all need reminders of why we are with our significant other.

God bless...

Karen_thrifty said...

That was so sweet and thanks for the laugh. Kids are so funny!

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